Problems with a restart…
Ed Stetzer said at the ReEngage conference that 87% of all statistics are made up on the spot. That is especially true for pastors who are notorious for getting information wrong, embellishing stories, or flat out lying to make a point. I know that sounds harsh but let’s face it there is a lot of misinformation out there that shouldn’t be because people didn’t take the time to get their facts straight.
God calls His people to different tasks, and He gives them different gifts by which they may serve Him, but gifting is only one side of this equation. God gives the calling and the gifting, but we must grow into these callings and develop the gifts He has given us. We must also grow in the grace of God.
Let me offer a hypothetical example. A young man is called to be a leader in his church. Even as a young teen, the sense of it is strong, and he is sure of it. But with that calling, the young man must grow spiritually. He must respond appropriately. There must be self discipline and growth. Most importantly, he must learn to live in the grace of God for himself. His victories must be tempered with the knowledge that God’s grace has enabled him. His failures must be met with a sureness that God’s grace pardons him because of Jesus.
Let me offer an illustration. A young boy wants to be a soldier. He is intelligent, and a committed patriot. He studies weaponry and battle tactics. Because the army (church) is short on soldiers (servants), he is enlisted and outfitted. He is committed, but he hasn’t grown enough (matured enough) to be effective. His boots are too big; the gun is too heavy; and the fatigues make him stumble. Not only can he not do his job, but he endangers his fellow soldiers who have to constantly rescue him. They may even begin to resent him; not because they don’t like him, but because instead of helping, he actually makes warfare (ministry) more dangerous (difficult).
The proof that he is not ready is that he is not effective in battle (ministry). He talks like a soldier, dresses like a soldier, thinks like a soldier, and likes to spend time with soldiers, but he is not ready to be a soldier.
What will he do next? There are three possibilities.
1) He will go home, maintain his patriotism, eat well, exercise, and grow into manhood. This will require patience, but he sees that it is essential.
2) He will try to force the issue by joining another platoon (church), and insist that he is ready for battle. Because the warfare is intense, and the volunteers are few, the next platoon (church) readily welcomes him and puts him to work. He feels approved of, and is proud of his uniform (ministry title), until he starts lagging behind in battle (service), and the scenario repeats itself, and the young man’s frustration builds. The cycle can continue to repeat itself many times over. Either the young man will mature, or he will become so embittered that he loses his patriotism (Christian calling), and jettisons the whole idea of serving and leading.
3) He will start his own army of little boy soldiers. They will dress like soldiers, talk like soldiers, and believe that they are on (a) mission, but will accomplish nothing, and mislead others.
In Christian service, there is no substitute for maturity. In this instance, I define maturity as follows: Having a healthy self image in regards to who and what you are and aren’t. Knowing what gifts you do and don’t have. Not needing ministry to validate your worth.
In Christian service, there is no substitute for maturity.
Christian service is indeed a type of warfare. (2 Timothy 2:1-7). The church desperately needs leaders who have grown into the stature required for the position.
It is a good thing to desire to serve and lead, but maturity is also needed. May I suggest that you re-visit the comments of people that have released you from ministry. Re-think the times when you have been ineffective, or made big mistakes. Don’t blame your fellow soldiers or officers. Take a personal inventory of your maturity. Ask trusted friends to tell you the truth about yourself. If there is criticism, and if growth is needed, be willing to grow into the position of leadership instead of just expecting or demanding it.
Someone has said that it takes a crucified man to serve a crucified Christ. Let God do more work in you, so that He may do more work through you.
Let God do more work in you, so that He may do more work through you.
If you’re anything like me, then you are constantly looking for better and/or more efficient ways of keeping up with the regular tasks of day to day life and ministry. Being that I was raised with technology, that typically means that I am looking for apps and services that make my life and ministry a bit easier. With that in mind, I’d like to share twelve of the tools (some you probably know/use and a few you may have never used or even heard of) that I use on a daily basis that just work.
Dropbox is an essential tool for me. I’ve had an account with Dropbox since it became available, recommended it to dozens of people (which has increased my free storage) and purchased more storage (even though there are potentially cheaper or free alternatives) because it just works great. For more than two years now I’ve had nearly all of my data stored across all of my devices via Dropbox. I know that some people will decry potential security issues to this way of working, but I’m not majorily concerned. All the projects I am working on a always backed-up and up-to-date on each of my devices (laptop, desktop, phone and iPad) and accessible on any computer.
I’ve been a Apple/Mac user since I was in second grade. At that time it was all 3.5” floppies, Oregon Trail and Carmen San Diego, but every year (in my opinion) Apple gets better and better at adding exceptional features. That’s definitely the story with iCloud. If you’ve been around Apple long enough then you’ve been through the growing pains of iTools, .Mac, MobileMe and even the early days of iCloud. But today iCloud is a major contender, and one I use constantly.
Besides synced contacts, calendars, notes and reminders across all of my devices, iCloud offers me the ability to easily work on documents anytime, anywhere. iCloud enables someone—like me—that uses Apple iWork exclusively (Pages, Keynote and Numbers) the ability to be typing notes in Pages on my iMac at home, edit them on my iPad or iPhone on the go, have the most current version available later on my MacBook Air (while at Starbucks no doubt), and then finish them up on my iMac at the office.
Yes, I know… I have an Apple disorder. People call our office “The Orchard.” If you’re an apple user too, iCloud is a no-brainer.
There is certainly some redundancy in these first three (perhaps even with the 4th too). Google drive can do many of the same things that Dropbox and iCloud do. One could make the case that Dropbox is unnecessary if you are using iCloud or Google Drive and that you should choose between iCloud or Google Drive. That’s for others to fight about. For me, I like all three for differing reasons and have found all of them to be helpful to my regular work flow and habits.
If you work with a 501(c)(3) nonprofit (i.e. most churches and para-church organizations) then you really should look in to Google for Nonprofits (http://www.google.com/nonprofits/), which makes Google Apps freely available to your whole organization. At our church, Cross Connection, we’ve had an authorized Google for Nonprofits account for several years, and we use it extensively.
Our office uses shared calendars and Google Drive/Apps daily. We regularly collaborate on documents and spreadsheets, and share project files and folders. Google Drive has also been a huge help in the work that I do with ministries outside of our local church. Whether it’s the Church Planting Network, our Online School, or individuals that I am mentoring or working with in the church. It is becoming more and more essential.
I started this post in Evernote on my laptop, and now I’m continuing it on my iPhone. I use Evernote constantly throughout my day. When an idea comes to mind or a new thought for a message or article, I reach for my iPhone and jot it down in Evernote. If I’m readying an article that of like to tag and save for later, I email a copy of it to my Evernote account from Safari on my iPhone, iPad or computer. The ability to attach pictures/files, tag, geotag, search and gather notes into notebooks makes Evernote my goto notes app.
Evernote is such a paradigm changer for some that books have been written entire websites dedicated to and seminars held on how to more effectively get things done using it.
Kindle App (for iOS)
I don’t think I’ve bought a “real book” (unless it was not available as an ebook) since the Kindle app came out for iPad. I’m the type of person that reads several books at one time. Kindle makes this all the more easy. I love the ability to have my entire library with me everywhere and at anytime. And to have highlights, notes and bookmarks synced across devices is a huge plus!
There are many reader/annotation apps for the iPad/iPhone (and other sub-par handheld devices), but I prefer Goodreader. Although I use it for all kinds of document files (PDF, Doc, XLS, PPT, etc.), my primary use of Goodreader is as my teaching notes tool.
The final draft of my teaching notes is always saved to Dropbox as a PDF. Then, when I’m ready to teach/preach I download the file from Dropbox in Goodreader, make any final highlights and annotations to it and step up to the pulpit.
Like I said, this is just one of many such tools, but it has a ton of features I’ve not seen in others.
Mantis Study Bible & Blue Letter Bible
I downloaded and purchased add-ons for Mantis Study Bible the first day I had my very first iPad. Although there are (now) other options available (even at a better price), I’ve stuck with Mantis because it works great, and I have got a bit of money invested in it. The only downside is that I wish there was a MacOS version available to use on my laptop/desktop, but that’s where Blue Letter Bible comes in.
I have Logos study bible, but I rarely open it. It has some great features and tools, but it has just never really fit into my workflow too well. I began using Blue Letter Bible as my primary Bible study tool more than 10 years ago. Thankfully they updated their user interface in the last year, but even before the update it was a topnotch tool that is totally free. I like it so much I’ve happily donated to the ministry of Blue Letter Bible. While it doesn’t have near the features of a fully featured Accordance or Logos, it’s spectacular for getting a study done.
Like several of other apps/services, Mailchimp is one of many options available to send mass emails to a large list of subscribers.
We use Mailchimp both at Cross Connection and the Calvary Church Planting Network. Each Friday I send out an email to more than 500 subscribers at the church to update them about what’s happening at our weekend services or about what’s coming up the following week. It’s a no-cost (for the first 2,000 subscribers and 12,000 emails/month), easy to use tool, that returns great metrics/reports.
It’s a first-world problem that all 21st century first-worlders share… too much email (Yes, I know, with Mailchimp we’re contributing to the problem). I have way too much of it on way too many accounts. On average I get 100-200 emails a day (during the week). In all honesty, only about a quarter to a third of them are of much importance (side note: I’m testing sanebox to deal with the other 66%).** Not only do I have too much email, but I check my email mostly on my iPhone and I routinely see emails there that need more attention than just a quick response from the phone. The problem is that those emails often get buried by the time I get back to my computer and then, they get are missed… which is a huge problem.
Enter Mailbox App. With mailbox, when I see an email on my phone, I can swipe to the left and bring up a prompt to (essentially) hide it till later today, this evening, tomorrow, next week, etc.
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A partial swipe to the right immediately archives the message and a full swipe to the right deletes it. Don’t understand? Watch the video…
Expensify has made my (and our Cross Connection Staff’s) life so much easier! Expensify has a very clear and simple statement about what they do… “Expense reports that don’t suck | Simple, hassle-free expense reporting.”
In the past (until about 6 months ago that is) all of those on our staff that have credit cards would receive their monthly statement with something like a spreadsheet attached on which they would identify what each expense was and which ministry/account it was attached to. In addition they would attach their receipts to it and return it to our Quickbooks master in a timely manner. Problem was, it never actually happened that way… in a timely manner.
Lets face it, I lose receipts, and I’m terrible at getting things done that I just hate doing. But Expensify has completely transformed that. Now, when myself or one of our staff members make a purchase with their church card, they take a picture of the receipt with the Expensify App on their iPhone, record the info of who the payee was, how much it cost and which accounting category it falls under. Then at the end of the month, what use to take me a couple of hours has been reduced to minutes. I just check the statement with the data on Expensify’s website and if everything checks out I hit send and it emails a PDF expense report to our Quickbookie. AWESOME!
Many churches use church management software (CMS) like Active Network’s Fellowship One, ACS Technologies or Church Community Builder; some prefer a church social network like The City (which is now owned by ACS). All of these are great services. Each of them have their own pros and cons, and all of them come at a cost. If your church is not using anything for administratively managing the work, you should at least look into it. We (at Cross Connection) have looked at several and are in the process of implementing Fellowship One. The only problem was that we wanted something that would also decentralize certain aspects of administration, community and church life. Facebook is a definite option, and many churches use it effectively, but for us Facebook has too much noise. The City offers some great features, but (1) doesn’t integrate with our CMS and (2) it would be an additional cost on top of our management solution with F1. Which is why, about a year ago, we implemented The Table at our church.
The Table is a church focused/oriented social networking platform. It’s free, easy to setup and use, and has proven super useful for us. Also, The Table integrates with Fellowship One and shares user data across the platforms. So, when Joe Average updates his contact info on The Table, it is updated in our church management records.
It’s another 21st century, first-world problem. We have accounts for Amazon, Google, iCloud, Blue Letter Bible, Dropbox, Evernote, Expensify, The Table… and that’s just the apps and services mentioned in this post. At present I have 198 accounts with individual logins and passwords (I know, that’s insane). Enter 1Password.
Like Apple’s original Keychain (which I could never get to work properly) and now iCloud Keychain (which works pretty well), 1Password offers saving and syncing (using Dropbox) of your login and password information for your many accounts. Then, with a simple hotkey (Command+) it prompts you for your single 1Password password (only once while logged in) and then inputs the unique username and password for whatever site you are on.
iCloud Keychain is accomplishing the same basic functionality… I’ve just become accustomed to using 1Password over the years, so for now I’m still using it.
What apps or services are you using that are a help?
Share them in the comments below.
**After a few days using SaneBox I can say for certain that it’s worth a look! Although there’s a monthly cost for the service, it does a great job of reducing the clutter in my inbox. Check out the 14 day free trial, you may find that you like it.
At this moment, just days from Christmas, a whole lot of noise has been stirred up in American pop-culture, resulting from the “Duck Commander’s” words that are to be printed in the January issue of GQ Magazine. The Twitter-sphere, blogosphere and mainline newsosphere are all a buzz, which of course means I have something to say too 😉
Two blog articles have stuck out to me in the last 24 hours. One, a post from Brandon Ambrosino at Time.com and the other from Andrew Sullivan on his own site, dish.andrewsullivan.com. Interestingly, both men are openly gay. Thus, their views are particularly interesting.
Both writers essentially agree that Phil Robertson’s firing is unfounded. Sullivan rightly observes that A&E has fired the reality star for doing the very thing that has made the network a boatload of money, speaking his stereotypically southern, redneck mind. Ambrosino closes with a great question, “Why is our go-to political strategy for beating our opponents to silence them?” Amidst all the chatter I find myself continually landing upon the same reoccurring thought: can we tolerate intolerance?
The collective voices of progressive pop-culture tell us “fundamentalist Christians” that we must be more tolerant of the LGBT community and lifestyle. By tolerance I can only deduce that they mean accepting and in many cases celebrate too. At this moment—barring changes that will likely come in the future—the definition of tolerant (according to the New Oxford American Dictionary installed on my MacBook Air) is “showing willingness to allow the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with.”
As far as I can tell, myself and most of the Christian pastors and church goers that I know, have been (according to the above definition) doing their best to be tolerant of the Homosexual lifestyle, whether they want to be or not. We’ve tried to show a willingness to allow the existence of opinions and behavior that we—and we believe the Scriptures—do not agree with. However, it does not seem that groups like GLAAD and others within the LGBT community are willing to offer the same tolerance to fundamentalist Christians like Phil Robertson.
My answer to the question is “no.” I cannot tolerate the LGBT and progressive pop-culture’s intolerance of our opinions that they do not agree with. I wish that they were a little more tolerant, and something tells me that Sullivan and Ambrosino would probably agree.
Pastor John Piper’s “Ask Pastor John” podcast this week discussed the question posed by Arminian Professor Roger Olson “Where’s the Arminian John Piper?” Upon listening to John’s response I asked my friend, Pastor Tim Brown, for his reactions. I found them very thought provoking and worth consideration.
Here is Piper’s podcast…
Here is Tim’s response…
I think it is self-serving and borders on intellectual dishonesty to recognize man’s role as opposed to God’s role as being the core of Arminian theology.
- I don’t know of any theologians who actually teach this or would recognize it as such.
- Man can do nothing unless God has done something. What rule of theology makes the responder superior to the initiator? What metric makes the final move the crucial move? One could argue that the move which makes possible the final move is the crucial move.
- If you were to give me $1 million, for me to walk away praising myself for having the presence of mind to extend my hand and take it from you flies in the face of psychology and history.
- Psychology – no one does this, i.e., walks away and focuses on their cleverness rather than the generosity of the giver. Everyone would walk away and say to others, “Wow, did you see what that guy just did? That’s amazing! Who is he!?” The focus would be on the giver and not the receiver and anything he did to position himself to receive.
- History – we don’t see what Piper asserts even in our most recent history. I am sure that Piper would consider Pastor Chuck an Arminian, or at least Arminianism would be a more dominant note than the principles of Calvinism. We see in our own quasi-Arminian movement a God-honoring focus on Jesus Christ. Our non-Calvinistic soteriology doesn’t produce the praise of man, but the praise of Jesus Christ. Our soteriology can bear the weight of worship and wonder.
- Isn’t it interesting that the man-at-the-core theology of Pastor Chuck birthed the Jesus movement and Piper’s God-at-the-center theology birthed the neo-Calvinist movement. The longer I think about it, the more Piper’s little clip strikes me as being self-serving and not well thought out.
In addition, for someone to take up Olson’s challenge to become the darling and champion of Arminian theology would be to betray the very gospel they preach. Pastor Chuck would have no interest in taking up this challenge. He wanted to promote Jesus, not a system. I’m sure that Piper sees Billy Graham as an Arminian. Billy wants to preach Christ and Him crucified – he doesn’t want to promote a system. Greg Laurie would be seen as an Arminian by Piper (no doubt), but Greg wants to preach Jesus and not argue system. It seems like the ones who are accused of being man-focused are more Christ-focused than the ones who say they are the ones who are most God-focused and God-honoring.
Piper’s contentions in his podcast don’t ring true theologically, psychologically, or historically.
[Furthermore] it’s amazing to me in the light of Piper’s contentions, that the Arminian theology of Pastor Chuck got the nation talking about Jesus and the Calvinism of Piper gets people talking about Calvin and Calvinism. You shall know them by their fruits. (struck through per Tim’s comment/retraction below)
How should Christians handle Santa Claus? Answering this question could start a fight…which I have no intention of doing. I’m certain that your personal background shapes how you answer this question.
Personally, I really enjoy Christmas. There are a lot of things I like about Christmas that really have little to do with Christmas Day. I love Christmas Carols. I’m not too embarrassed to admit that I look forward to rocking out to Elvis’ Blue Christmas for most of the year. I love seeing colorful Christmas lights everywhere—the more the merrier! I love decorating the Christmas tree. I love seeing the lights on the tree. Who doesn’t love seeing gifts under the tree? I love my family’s tradition of Christmas Eve dinner, the opening of one Christmas gift, going to our church’s Christmas Eve Service, and ending the night by watching Elf (yes, you read that right). I love the laughter and joy this season brings.
I share the previous paragraph with you so you know that I really do like this holiday. I’m not opposed to having fun through imagination. I’m not bunkered down teaching my kids that “Santa is just Satan spelled differently.” However, I am very careful with how we’ve handled the issue of Santa Clause with our children and with my teaching at the church.
I love the imagination and creativity that God has given us. I’m not looking for a history lesson on the origin of Santa Claus—I’ve already checked out his Wikipedia entry. I’m fine with telling stories and having fun with creativity. However, I don’t understand when parents push the line from fantasy or imagination to reality and outright deceit to their children. I know, I know, that sounds really harsh. I need to lighten up, right?
Have fun with your imagination. I’m all for imagination. I’m not suggesting that Santa can’t be a part of the Christian’s holiday plans. God gave us creativity and imagination. Use it, have fun with it. Children have a special connection to the make believe that I wish I were better at reconnecting with as an adult. I love that my kids help me tap into my inner child—my wife may not be as thrilled with this as I am. Just leave Santa here.
Protect your children’s trust. I have never lied to my kids about Santa. They have always known that he is make believe, just like the tooth fairy, and any other make believe people. I will not intentionally deceive my children for a number of reasons, but I want them to know that they can trust me no matter what. There is nothing greater than anyone’s trust, especially your children’s. Why would we jeopardize this trust by pitching something as truth when we ourselves know it’s just in fun?
Why this matters to me? I’m a Christian. I have a personal relationship with the Creator of the universe through Jesus Christ my Lord. I didn’t come to know Christ until I was an adult and when I did, I came to understand the overwhelming historical evidence concerning His prophetic coming, His life, death, and resurrection. In hindsight, I see that during my youth, I’d begun to lump Jesus with Santa Claus, the Boogey Man, and Tooth Fairy. Jesus has nothing to do with fairy tales and I want no part in deceiving my children or confusing them about who Jesus is. This is ultimately why I take the matter of Santa so seriously in my home. We can get our pictures taken with Santa, threaten coal for gifts if they’re naughty, but let your kids know that it is all make believe.
For the skeptics out there, I encourage you to really investigate the gospel. My prayer is that this would be the greatest Christmas of your life. Jesus came and died for you so that you might find life in Him. This grace of God is indescribable and is truly the greatest gift one can receive. Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
The famous scholar, Matthew Henry, wrote these words in his journal after being robbed of his wallet, “Let me be thankful first, because I was never robbed before; second, because, although they took my purse, they did not take my life; third, because, although they took my all, it was not much; and fourth, because it was I who was robbed, not I who robbed.” Have you ever wondered how some people can be so thankful regardless of their situation? I know I have!
To be quite honest, I’ve always been a “the glass is half empty” kind of guy. I don’t like this bent of mine, but because of this hard wiring I notice those thankful types of people. I’ll never forget one man I met while going through Navy SEAL training. We were a few days into the miserable rigors of Hellweek (a grueling test over 5 ½ days where only 4 cumulative hours of sleep are given) and he always had a smile on his face and was thankful every minute during this miserable week. I never asked him why he was so thankful, but his joyful attitude was noticed by all and very contagious.
The older I grow, the more I appreciate Thanksgiving. As a Christian, I believe this holiday celebrates a virtue followers of Christ are to embody—thankfulness! In First Thessalonians 5:16-18, the Apostle Paul instructs Christians to, “Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” How do these verses become reality in a person’s life? I think perspective is everything as it relates to thankfulness.
God desires you to be joyful and to give thanks! In thinking about this it seems that thankfulness is the antidote to discouragement and ultimately produces joy in a person’s life. There’s an old hymn titled Count Your Blessings. The refrain instructs the hearer to, “Count your blessings, name them one by one, count your blessings, see what God hath done!” There is great power in simply naming things one is thankful for because it forces the individual to back up and take the larger picture into perspective.
Whenever a wave of discouragement comes in my family, we play the “Thankful Game” with each other. What is this game? I’m glad you asked. We simply work our way through the alphabet giving thanks for something that starts with each letter. For example, I would say, “A – I am thankful for my wife Anna. B – I am thankful for the Bible. C – I am thankful for chocolate covered doughnuts at Petersons, etc, etc.” I know it sounds silly, but it never ceases to amaze me how much better we feel after intentionally giving thanks for the many ways in which God has blessed us.
God has blessed us each tremendously whether we acknowledge it or not. My prayer is that we each would cultivate a spirit of thankfulness in our hearts. I’m convinced that as we express our thankfulness our joy will increase. Ultimately God is pleased with our spirit of thankfulness and others are blessed. Albert Barnes, a theologian from the 1800’s, once said, “We can always find something to be thankful for, and there may be reasons why we ought to be thankful for even those dispensations which appear dark and frowning.” Regardless of your present situation, what are your thankful for today?
This post certainly isn’t a slam on Christians who do the Halloween thing—I’m all for you dressing up, eating candy and having fun! Personally, I’m just not really into holidays. They sort of come and go around here—with exception of Thanksgiving and Christmas. I hold more of the “to each their own” when it comes to celebrating holidays.
Halloween was nothing more than dressing up for some candy when I was growing up. Not much has changed since then—other than the fact that I am a Christian now. I’ve heard a lot of people claim that the celebration of Halloween has become far darker than it was 10+ years ago. I’m not sure if that is true, or if I’m simply running with Christians these days that are more sensitive than my old SEAL buddies. Maybe a little of both?
I’m preaching on Romans 14:1-12 this Sunday. This passage deals with how Christians should relate with one another concerning issues of opinion and conviction that the Bible doesn’t explicating touch on. I find that Halloween is one of these issues of opinion and conviction. I can’t tell you the origin of Halloween, nor I am interested in you telling me either. It is what you make of it.
That being said, I’ll never forget a Halloween when I was in Bible College. I had class that day and the church where the seminary is located was having a Harvest Festival—you know the Christian alternative to Halloween. I wasn’t upset that I was missing the holiday for class, but I was pretty annoyed that all the parking was taken up walking to class. When I arrived in the classroom, I was met with an uncomfortable situation. There was a middle-aged lady in the room weeping. Man, I wanted to leave the room as quick as I could, but she saw me—I was stuck.
I asked what was wrong to discover she was heartbroken that the church was doing a Harvest Festival for Halloween. Inside I thought she was making a big deal over nothing and should just grow up. Of course I didn’t say that, but I was thinking it. As the conversation unfolded, it turns out that this lady was raised a Pagan (literally) and Halloween was a day where they did a bunch of evil stuff. I was shocked to hear her tell her story. I learned the holiday was far more than pillaging candy to her as it surfaced very dark memories and the present reality for many in her family. This conversation changed my feelings on Halloween dramatically.
Fast-forward about 11 years to today. I still don’t make a big deal about this day. I’m not vocal about it…just sort of slips by without commentary on my part. I have an almost 8-year-old daughter who just hates this holiday. Where does it come from? I don’t know other than I believe she has a deeply sensitive conscience to spiritual things. Yesterday she came home from an event where the teacher said the kids could wear their costumes to class next week—which falls on Halloween.
I was sitting in my office when she approached me in anguish. She explained that she had a real problem and wasn’t sure how to handle it. The issue was that she didn’t want to get dressed up, she didn’t want to lie about why she won’t dress up, and she doesn’t want to condemn her friends. What should she do? I must pause to say that as a dad I am so proud of this little girl and her genuine walk with God. Seriously, these moments are super special for me to help her navigate life in this world. Nothing greater than being pastor-dad!
After she explained the problem, I shared with her the passage I was studying—Romans 14:1-12. I found it very relevant to the problem at hand as it gives some insight to how we as Christians should handle things like Halloween. Here are some points that I told her and I believe these apply to all Christians, regardless of your stance on Halloween.
Pray. First and foremost, I explained that she should pray and ask God for wisdom on how to handle this.
Heed your conscience. One’s conscience is a super special gift that God has given us. It’s not always right, but we shouldn’t make a habit of violating it because we can damage it. We laid out a bunch of options from going dressed up, not dressed up, not going at all, or making other plans. My main concern is that I want my daughter to recognize her conscience and to develop a plan on how to listen to it.
You answer ultimately to God. We so desperately want to fit in and be accepted by friends, but ultimately we must recognize that we cannot make others happy. So the best option is live your life in a way that you think pleases God the most. As this relates to Halloween, I can see a case for both sides. Whatever you do, it should be for God’s glory.
Be sensitive to others. You want to get dressed up? No problem, just be sensitive to others. This holiday may not be to them what it is to you. You want nothing to do with this holiday? Fine, don’t get dressed up, but be careful not to condemn others as it probably isn’t to them what it is to you.
There is some debate whether or not Augustine actually said these words, but I think they are an appropriate way to end this post, “In essentials unity, in non-essentials liberty, in all things charity.”
Calvary Chapel, a ministry and movement I’ve had the privilege of both growing up in and serving with for more than 20 years, is now facing the most significant transitional changes that it has in all the time I’ve been associated with it. With the passing of Pastor Chuck Smith a week ago, the changes will [now] be far more apparent, but they have actually been going on for the better part of the last two years.
Just over a year ago, the internal leadership structure of the Calvary Chapel changed with the creation of the Calvary Chapel Association, and as of yesterday, Pastor Brian Brodersen was chosen to be Pastor Chuck’s successor as the Senior Pastor of Calvary Chapel Costa Mesa. While it remains to be seen what this change at Costa Mesa will mean for the larger Association, I find myself very optimistic about the future of Calvary Chapel. Why?
First, Pastor Brian is (in my humble opinion) the right man, at the right time. He has faithfully served as an associate/assistant to Pastor Chuck for the last thirteen years. In addition to his faithfulness to Pastor Chuck and CCCM, Brian has a genuine passion for foreign missions and a clear commitment to the younger generation of leaders coming up in CC. In my experience—primarily at conferences domestically and abroad, and on occasion at Costa Mesa—Brian has proven to be one of the most approachable senior leaders I’ve encountered in Calvary. He takes the time to be available to those seeking counsel and prayer, and has thus proven himself a pastor, not only to the members of CCCM, but [also] to the missionaries and pastors of the greater Calvary Movement.
The second reason that I am optimistic grows out of an observation I had from outside of Calvary this week.
This week Exponential held its first West Coast Conference in Orange County. I had the privilege of meeting with some of the Exponential and Leadership Network leaders to discuss church planting and the Calvary Church Planting Network prior to the conference; and then I’ve tuned in (online) to several of the sessions throughout the week.
The theme for Exponential West has been DiscipleShift, and while the sessions from pastors such as Miles McPherson, Larry Osborne, Rick Warren, Robert Coleman, and many others have, been substantive, I have found it interesting that much of what is being presented as the new discipleship paradigm in American Christianity, has been standard Calvary Chapel practice for 40+ years. No, it has never been branded, packaged and promoted by Calvary, but for more than 40 years, it has been our practice. Thus, Calvary Chapel is, in a number of ways, still ahead of the curve and continuing to reshape American Protestantism. And, if Calvary can maintain the consistency of simply teaching the Word of God simply, loving God, loving others and making disciples, it will do so for many years to come.